{"id":1058,"date":"2020-08-21T09:10:25","date_gmt":"2020-08-21T07:10:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/aktasens.fr\/?p=1058"},"modified":"2024-06-18T10:59:32","modified_gmt":"2024-06-18T08:59:32","slug":"how-emotional-intelligence-ei-will-help-you-in-your-future-job","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/aktasens.fr\/en\/how-emotional-intelligence-ei-will-help-you-in-your-future-job\/","title":{"rendered":"How Emotional Intelligence (EI) will help you in your future job?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Are you a student in high school or college or a young professional? Do you think you have chosen an education that suits your main interests? Have you acquired knowledge and hard skills to be able to work in this field? Do you still sense you are somewhat missing something to feel truly comfortable and included at work? At school, you learn concepts and know-how. What about soft skills? What about learning to identify, understand and manage your emotions? What do you think of a professional who looks self-confident, self-driven, and express him\/herself respectfully and assertively towards other individuals, considering their opinions and emotions? Don't you think this professional manages stress better, takes decisions more effectively and nurtures high quality interpersonal relationships?<\/p>

If yes, I invite you to read this article. It will introduce some methods to turn your and others' emotions into allies and success factors at work. \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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1. What is emotional intelligence and how can it help you?<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Emotional Intelligence is a skill!<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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First, let us talk about skills. As a matter of facts, emotional intelligence is a skill<\/strong>, and not the least of them! A skill includes 4 types of abilities<\/strong> one can develop, maintain, and enrich. A skill is therefore dynamic. Everyone can learn and improve their skills. A skill includes theoretical knowledge<\/strong>, know-how<\/strong> (hard skills), interpersonal behaviors<\/strong> (soft skills) and physical aptitudes<\/strong>. Nowadays at work, expertise in a specific field tends to be the most valued. Here we talk about theoretical knowledge and know-how.\u00a0<\/p>

What about soft skills? You may have met people who are not the best experts. And yet life at work or in society looks so natural, easy, and smooth to them. They have developed their emotional and social functioning. This is THE key to optimal interpersonal relationships and performance.\u00a0<\/p>

It is not a surprise that more and more schools and workplaces include personal development courses and trainings. When Artificial Intelligence (AI) will take over most technical skills, Emotional Intelligence (EI) will become an important competitive advantage for human beings. In the near future, robots are far from being able to reproduce human emotions and their interactions. \u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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What are emotions?<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Let us now talk about emotions. Emotion comes from Latin emovere<\/em>, which basically means \u201ctake a move\u201d. When something great or unpleasant occurs, our brain sends a signal to our body. This signal makes the body move. In most cases, we move because we have felt one of the 4 primary emotions: fear, anger, sadness, joy.<\/strong> Other feelings can make us react as well, such as revulsion, surprise, shame, or guilt for example. \u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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It is late and Mary walks alone in the street after a party. Suddenly, two people she does not know yell at her quite suddenly. She runs away very quickly. She has been scared!<\/p>

Ugo receives his graduation letter from school. He gets his diploma with amazing ranks. He jumps in his mother's arms. He is happy!<\/p>

Jean has just been informed his closest colleague has passed away. He cannot help crying. He is sad!<\/p>

Maud has been waiting for an hour in front of the Theater. Her friend arrives late and does not apologize. She raises her voice and expresses her anger.<\/p>

Are you able to guess a bit now how your emotions can be a significant asset in your everyday life? <\/em><\/strong><\/p>

Primary emotions arise spontaneously and naturally. We cannot prevent them from coming. We feel them and react before thinking because we basically want to survive. What would be the consequences if you express whatever emotion whenever and wherever you feel to?<\/p>

Let us take an example: Roger comes to work and finds his desk empty. All his stuff is gone. He feels heat running in his cheeks and anger starts to enter his body. At this very moment, Tim passes by. Roger asks very firmly: \u201cWho has removed my stuff?\u201d. His colleague answers: \u201cI did but\u2026\u201d. Roger does not let him finish and starts getting angry at him. A few hours later, Roger learned from other people that Tim kindly moved his stuff to his new desk the day before. Indeed, Roger was off work and totally forgot the department reshuffled the open space while he was away\u2026<\/span><\/p>

Let us take the same example with another viewpoint: Roger comes to work and finds his desk empty. All his stuff is gone. He feels heat running in his cheeks and anger starts to enter his body. At this very moment, Tim passes by. Roger feels anger in him and takes time to understand what is happening to him. He understands that he needs to know the background of the problem and as well, he needs to be reassured that he has not been prejudiced. He asks Tim gently: \u201cDo you know where my stuff is? It is weird, everything is gone.\u201d Tim answers with a gentle smile on his face: \u201cYes, I moved your stuffs to your new desk. You were out of the office when we reshuffled the department.\u201d Relied and pleased Roger answers: \u201cYes that is right, I totally forgot about this. Thank you, this is very kind of you!\u201d<\/span><\/p>

What do you think of those 2 cases? What would be the consequences on their future relationship? What kind of impacts could there be on their cooperation at work? How is Roger going to feel in both situations? How will it affect his self-perception, his well-being and as a result of facts his effectiveness?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>

Those examples show you how Emotional Intelligence is a great advantage in various situations: for your health, effectiveness, at school, at work, with your customers or suppliers, family, friends, teams, hobbies\u2026<\/p>

When we are a child, we cannot put words on our emotions and we simply let them be. According to our personality and education, we tend to either express emotions quite excessively or block them inside. In both cases, there will be consequences in our bodies, minds, and relationships. When we grow up, we will either be an adult having difficult emotions managing or an adult who recognizes emotions and use them effectively.<\/p>

There are different definitions for Emotional Intelligence (EI). I choose to share one from the EQ-I 2.0 tool I will describe later in this article. Emotional intelligence is a set of emotional and social skills that collectively establish how well we perceive and express ourselves, develop and maintain social relationships, cope with challenges, and use emotional information in an effective and meaningful way.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>

Good news is that emotional intelligence is a competence. It means everyone can learn it, the same way you would learn a concept or technique. We can improve our EI continuously. The other good news is EI includes multiple dimensions, which are all interdependent. When we develop one, it necessarily improves others too!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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2. Some tips to work on your emotional intelligence:<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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I guess you wonder now how to develop this special skill? I will share some tools with you. They are obviously not thorough. They will however let you start practice and get a flavor of the first results.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Understand your strengths and improvement areas<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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On the market, there are several assessments measuring Emotional Intelligence. I thing EQ-I 2.0<\/a><\/strong> because it was inspired by Daniel Goleman's renown work. He has been one of the first to foster EQ (Emotional Quotient) as a key condition to success. IQ (Intelligence Quotient) is not enough, both are necessary. Daniel Goleman, \u201cEmotional Intelligence\u201d \u2013 1995.<\/em><\/p>

Moreover, EQ-I 2.0 is the most passed assessment in the world so far. It is a self-assessment, which relates to 5 dimensions,<\/strong> scrolled down into 15 skills<\/strong>. It provides broad ways to develop! Please find below the EQ-I 2.0 wheel:<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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The 5 dimensions directly influence your well-being, performance, and emotional & social functioning<\/strong>. Indeed, the way you perceive yourself will definitely influence the way you express yourself, and again, the quality of your relationships. The way you interact with others will affect your decision process and of course the way you manage stress. The way you manage stress has an impact on your self-perception and so on and so on.<\/p>

You assess yourself for each of the 15 skills. As mentioned earlier, all skills are co-dependent. If some skills are not equally balanced, you can use your strengths to balance the weakest ones. For instance, if you have a strong empathy and a weak assertiveness, you can use your ability to put yourself in others' shoes. It will soften the way you express yourself, with kindness and respect.<\/p>

Let us go through some concrete examples.<\/strong><\/p>

We will not be able to go through all competencies. To do so, it is necessary to pass the assessment and debrief with a certified professional. He or she will explore personalized options in line with your EQ profile.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Improve your self-esteem<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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We are many to lack self-confidence, self-regard and we are many to underestimate ourselves and our achievements. Some exercises and tools can help to grow our self-esteem.<\/p>

One tool I use both with adults and children is the wheel of emotions<\/a><\/strong>. Via your primary emotions, you can identify and get aware of your secondary emotions and further. Above all, you can find out what your needs are. Because behind each emotion, there is a need<\/strong>, fulfilled or not.<\/p>

How can you love yourself without understanding how you feel and what you need to ease your sensations? <\/em><\/p>

If we take a look at Roger's example again (see above in the article), we can see Roger has first felt heat going into his cheeks. Thanks to that sensation, he has identified he was getting angry. What need was this anger related to? Roger probably had a need for respect, communication, inclusion or whatever else.<\/p>

The wheel of emotions<\/strong> enables us to take the time to think through our feelings, analyze them and avoid overreacting or block emotions. We basically avoid promoting behaviors that will make us feel ashamed, foolish, or guilty. And yet, actions that can jeopardize or self-esteem.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Another daily routine that can help you gain self-regard, is to write down 3 achievements or 3 attributes you like about yourself.<\/strong> Your brain will remember positive actions or behaviors that give purpose and value to your life. This develops optimism and self-confidence if you practice regularly. For instance, you could write down:<\/p>